Teaching Your Toddler the Art of Listening
Around the age of 2, children suddenly begin to realize they are their own person. And while that’s great in many respects, it can lead to a lot of conflict. You want them to express themselves yet you also want them getting toddler to listen , and thus, you must walk a fine line because if you become too restrictive, you’ll only make matters worse. Try to be more flexible and use these techniques to help bring about more desirable behavior.
Get close and look them in the eye
We’ve all done it – yelled from across the room to “stop that!” But rarely is it ever effective, is it? Instead, we yell and yell some more until there are tears and insanity. Not healthy for anyone. When your child starts running through the house, instead of shouting from afar, stop what you’re doing and go to them. Get up close and look them in the eye to have better success. In this way, when you request your child to do or not do something, he will know you mean business.
Allow for appropriate choices
So it’s time to go and you tell your child to put their shoes on now. But that might result in some more resistance. Instead, phrase it as a choice to give them the feeling that they have some control. “Do you want to wear your blue sneakers or your green ones?” This is so effective it will make you jump for joy.
Focus on positives while using simple terms
Toddlers are just beginning to learn how to follow simple directions and answer questions. You can get a better response out of your child if you say “Walk!” instead of “Don’t run!” Also, don’t just bark out 10 commands at once. Allow your child to process each request.
Always do what you say and say what you mean
All consequences – both positive and negative – should be known in advanced. So you can tell your child that first she must get dressed and then she can watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. Or perhaps your child is doing something you don’t want them to do, like throwing a toy. If that’s the case, tell them that if they throw the toy again, you will take the toy away. Follow through on everything you say. If it’s a good behavior, make a huge big deal about how they are such a good listener and you will likely get more good behavior.
Keep calm and carry on
Resistant behavior is hard to deal with from a child of any age, but remember that responding to it appropriately will help turn things around. If you are mean and criticize constantly, it will only lead to worse behavior and emotional issues. Stay calm and remain consistent. In doing so, your child will exhibit more of the good behavior you wish to see.